I'm starting this blog on impulse from thinking about how we all seem to be defined by our fears. While we cluster in groups or pairs on the basis of what we 'love', it is our fears that really make up how others perceive us and how we see others. If some inexplicably distressing thoughts plague us and affect the way we relate to other persons this directly relates to our fears.
I'm interested in investigating this some more. Particularly since this 'fear' thing is strenuously denied by people (us?) in seeming direct proportion to the way it affects us. Instead of realising that we are being gripped by a fear we tend to blame shift or wave a flag of righteousness and demonise the 'thing' affecting us. Not me of course. I just see this happening in others - fairly clearly. I don't demonise or blame shift. Much.
That was a hard start to the blog. Dreaming about it last night was so different. The thoughts just flowed and I developed the outline for a significant lifestyle tome on the subject. Not so brilliant in the light of day. But I will persist with the possible aim of getting responses from cyberspace. In the first place this blog is for me but if it involves others all the better.
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When people get offended, they exhibit a type of fear. So you get a myriad of actions and statements based on this fear that end up looking questionable. Lesson: don't indulge your capacity for taking offence. I know I can't help taking offence sometimes but it's nearly always in response to someone else who has taken offence. It's the old 'knee jerk' that should never be confused with the 'gut response'. The gut response comes from somewhere deep inside and the knee jerk comes from those around you whose opinions you need to affirm. It's the difference between the blood rush and the reflective epiphany.
